Monday 30 September 2013

Being a Mother (Part 3)

Yeah, I suck! I don't post enough, I don't write like a blogger does and my writing skills are terrible! But, I enjoy posting when I get a chance and it helps me let go. I have  been uber busy with life but I wont post about this until later so let's get back to being a mother.

After Birth

So you think it's all over, you have the baby you wanted and no matter how ugly they actually are you think they are a gift from God. Now let me tell you something about after birth - it's not over.  I have never experienced anything other than natural birth so can only tell you about that and no other way.

Placenta - It comes out after your baby and tends to be the same size. The good thing is, it does not tend to hurt but it comes with the urge to push still!

Stitches - You might be lucky (I was with my first) and need none or you could be VERY unlucky. With my second child he weighed 9lb 9oz and gave me a little tear, I only needed 6 stitches but it still scared the crap out of me! They normally inject you to numb your area but geeze that hurts!

Knackered - You are so tired you feel like you could sleep forever but something is stopping you. No matter how hard you try you cannot fall asleep

Mess - You are such a mess from sweat, blood and all other sorts of crap! You have a shower/bath but you can barely move and if you have a bath it just looks like blood.

Sore - You area, hurts. Peeing hurts and you daren't poo in case your insides fall out (which they don't)

Bleeding - You have a massive period that can last 6 weeks and it's so heavy you actually need the maternity pads. They become your life saver for sitting down.

After pains - For your first child it's like a strong period pain but for any other children you have after this it's like a contraction and no pain killer touches it!

Hormones - They are still there and still raging, you will cry at nothing and feel like you wont cope but you just get one with it (I do advise if you feel down for longer than 2 weeks you go see your GP or talk to someone about it because it could be postnatal depression)

Baby - You are now responsible for another being who demands your time and you don't know how you will cope. Sometimes you don't feel that instant love you thought you would but don't worry this changes once everything is settled (if not visit GP or speak to someone)

Nipples - If you are breastfeeding, you nipples KILL and become cracked (even bleed at times). There are ways around it, like nipple cream and nipple shields but you need to be careful. Some nipple cream you need to wipe off and the nipple shields can affect your breast milk. OH and it hurts to start with.

Hair - Those luscious locks you got thanks to your baby - disappears. Your hair falls out so much you think you are going bald.

So I am no expert, this is just all experience and each pregnancy/birth is different so may not happen. My last part will be done shortly, its basically on how I feel now...

Till next time